“You have this one life. How do you want to spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating yourself? Dieting? Running after people who don’t see you? Be brave. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. Take risks. You have this one life. Make yourself proud.”
Healthy Eating is about Freedom. It is about whether you feel free to choose what you are going to eat, how much, and when.
Healthy Eating is about feeling great, having energy, and keeping yourself in a “healthy” state of mind and body.
Healthy Eating is about giving yourself permission to eat because the food “tastes” good and to continue eating until you feel satisfied.
Healthy Eating is eating three meals a day plus snacks or perhaps choosing to munch along. It is having two cookies and making a free and conscious decision to eat a third for any reason—because they taste good, because they are freshly baked, how rarely you have them, or it is leaving more cookies on the plate because you know you can have some again tomorrow.
Healthy Eating is being able to choose foods that provide your body with the vitamins and nutrients it needs—for ENERGY, but not being so restrictive that you miss out on pleasurable foods.
Healthy Eating is allowing yourself to eat sometimes because you are happy, sad, bored, or because it just feels good—and not beating yourself up afterwards.
Healthy Eating is overeating at times: feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. It is also under eating at times and wishing you had more.
Healthy Eating is trusting that your body will BALANCE everything out.
Healthy Eating may take some time and energy, but it should only be one small component of your life.
Ultimately, Healthy Eating is not about strict nutrition philosophies. It should be flexible, changing in response to your hunger, your emotions, your schedule and your proximity to food.
Saying “Oh, I’ve already ruined my good eating today; I’ll just eat crap” is like saying, “Oh, I dropped my phone on the floor; I’ll just smash it until it breaks.”
Many of us are quieter types who keep to ourselves, preferring not to socialize too much. We can feel quite uncomfortable in large crowds, preferring small groups and intimate settings. We have a rich internal world that we find very satisfying. Although, we feel strongly about what makes us uncomfortable, we can also feel that there is something a bit wrong with us when we do.
One difficulty that commonly arises, is that introverts are often drawn to extroverts and can end up in relationships with them. This is pretty understandable – all of us seek out people who seem to have qualities we don’t have, but some extroverts have a very difficult time understanding introverts. Because extroverts like to be outgoing and social (and less focused on their interior worlds) it can sometimes be difficult for them to understand the world of the introvert, who doesn’t like to do these things. As is often the case, when we don’t understand something it can start seem like an aberration.
If you’re an introvert you might be getting the message from an extrovert close to you that there is something wrong with you and you need to go to therapy to sort yourself out. You may have been hearing this for a while and are starting to wonder if it is true. If so, I’d suggest reading this article with your extroverted partner to help make sense of your differences: http://holykaw.alltop.com/understanding-your-introvert-chart?tu2=1
Ultimately, people are frequently unaware that they’re introverts -– especially if they’re not shy — because they may not realize that being an introvert is about more than just cultivating time alone. Instead, it can be more instructive to pay attention to whether you’re losing or gaining energy from being around others, even if the company of friends gives you pleasure.
Let’s embrace who we are, not what people expect us to be…and appreciate each other’s differences.
Be yourself, because an original is worth more than a copy.
Practicing mindfulness has been shown to have numerous positive effects on well-being. Decades of research supports what has been known for thousands of years by cultures that practice mindfulness. Engaging in a practice even for just a few minutes a day can lower stress and anxiety, relieve feelings of depression and pain, and boost the immune system. Cultivating mindfulness helps us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, which promotes emotional balance and self-awareness.
Here are some great online resources for guided meditations. They’re a great place to start if you want to try out meditation for the first time, or if you’re an experienced practitioner and enjoy guided meditations.
- Meditations from UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center
- The Chopra Center guided meditations http://www.chopra.com/articles/guided-meditations
- Milwaukee Mindfulness Center’s meditation downloads http://www.milwaukeemindfulness.com/meditation-downloads
- The Mindful Muscle, YouTube guided meditations http://www.mindfulmuscle.com/5-top-guided-meditations
- Tara Brach’s guided meditations https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations
- The Mindful Way through Anxiety http://mindfulwaythroughanxiety.com/exercises
- The Art of Living, guided meditations http://www.artofliving.org/us-en/online-guided-meditation
Feel the feeling, but don’t become the emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it.
-Buddhist quote, Anonymous
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